Brother livestreamed to say he divorced his wife, gave his third child 250 million, but was still dumped by his mistress

Recently, social media was abuzz with the story of a guy named MHH "accusing" a girl of "cheating" on him. However, besides the main drama, what most people are interested in is the spending list that this guy spends on his girlfriend.

Accordingly, the guy made a spreadsheet, clearly recording the expenses with detailed amounts. In just over a month, the total amount he spent on his girlfriend was nearly 250 million VND. From large expenses such as cosmetic surgery, buying a diamond ring,... to smaller expenses such as buying clothes, going to photo shoots, he recorded them all in detail.

Most notably, netizens paid attention to expenses such as: "begging money", "sulking money transfer",... Besides, there were also some amounts of up to 30 million VND that he transferred to his girlfriend but it is unknown what she used it for.

According to the post's owner, the guy said that during their relationship, because he was too "dependent", he accepted everything the other person wanted. When the relationship had problems, the girl expressed a decisive attitude, so he had to calculate the expenses to prove it. In addition, he said that this was only a matter of money, not considering other issues such as family, life, ... he tried to take care of everything completely and fully.

It is known that at the time of sharing the story, the man and his wife were divorced.

When he posted this spending chart on social media, he was immediately condemned. Many people think that posting personal stories online, especially those related to financial matters, is not a good thing to do. Besides, many people also suspect that the man "created content" to sell products because it is difficult to expose the fact that he had an affair and was betrayed by his lover to his ex-wife. Currently, the story is still causing a stir on social media.

Cheating is a fascinating subject. The antics of cheating couples have captivated audiences since the early days of storytelling, through modern romantic comedies and popular podcasts by relationship experts.

So it makes sense that a psychotherapist who specializes in intimate relationships would turn to writing a book on the subject. "Why do we cheat?" Juliet Rosenfeld asks in the introduction to her book Affairs.

This is her second book, which focuses on infidelity through an analysis of five real-life relationships. Her first book, The State of Disbelief, delved into Rosenfeld's experience of grief after the death of her husband Andrew.

Although Rosenfeld has been a psychologist with many clients for the past 15 years, she did not use their material in her book. Instead, in 2021, she placed ads in several British and American publications looking for people to participate in her project.

The participants will talk about their cheating, a rarely discussed aspect of their behaviour, and their identities will be kept “strictly anonymous”. The five stories, from a man who visited his mistress minutes after his wife gave birth, to another who left his wife and autistic child for a colleague, are protected from identity theft, but they still show a remarkable similarity in nature.

At 60, “Professor M”, a scholar in the field of science and technology, has never been interested in any other man besides her partner of 25 years. She has a fulfilling and interesting life. The couple shares the same friends, has similar hobbies and interests, and plays a sport they both love.

However, a chance meeting at a conference with a man she had known sparked a passionate love affair. The feelings left her confused, troubled, and even mentally and physically exhausted. She had to see a therapist, usually four times a week, and the total number of sessions ran into the hundreds.

Talks with the therapist, which included her childhood, helped Professor M get her family relationship back on track (the family bond “deepened, became something more loving”). She also stressed to Rosenfeld that “cheating” is “not just about our present, but also about our past.”

However, The Guardian's Susie Mesure argues that Rosenfeld's imaginative reach doesn't extend to her characters' dialogue. The exchanges between Rosenfeld and Neil, a senior partner at a top law firm who is cheating on his wife Serena with a much younger mistress, Magdalena, are particularly stilted.

Rosenfeld seems to imply that Magdalena is merely a replacement for Serena when he mentions Neil saying he "only has sex with Magdalena when his wife is not home", however, this detail is obscured in the dialogue.

Still, Rosenfeld manages to convey the raw emotions of the people involved through compelling storytelling, especially as they share the paths that led to their extramarital affairs.

Rosenfeld intersperses these stories with references to various psychoanalytic theories and texts, such as Simon Freud's essay on sadness and depression, one of the works that has been called "the key to understanding loss."

Despite the use of such specialized theory, Rosenfeld is clear in his interpretation. "Freud talked about substitutes, and in Eleanor's case, I believe she came to Nick to fill the void left by her longing for Mina. Nick is also a substitute for the kinship Siobhan lacked when her father rejected her as a child," the author writes.

While Affairs is an interesting read, Rosenfeld's view that the roots of most cheating are "linked to childhood and adulthood trauma" is not new. Much more could be done to elicit new insights from her work.

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