Do Tay Ha: Bitter transgender journey, once called "psychic" because of homosexuality

Just because of a saying from the person she secretly loved and remembered, Do Tay Ha was determined to become a girl. Do Tay Ha's bitter and difficult journey inspired many people, she also became the first transgender beauty to compete at Miss Universe Vietnam.

Model Do Tay Ha is widely known to the audience after winning the transgender runner-up Miss Venus 2017. Besides, Tay Ha is also known as the first transgender beauty to compete in Miss Universe Vietnam. When the online photo contest Miss Universe Vietnam 2021 kicked off, the two most noticeable names were Nguyen Le Nam - the twin sister of Miss Nam Em and transgender beauty Do Tay Ha.

Do Tay Ha is the first transgender person officially enrolled in a national beauty contest, paired with other beauties. Previously, in January, the organizers announced to expand the range of contestants, accept transgender applications and raise the age limit to 27. Therefore, Do Tay Ha was not allowed to enter the next round. because at that time the beauty was 28 years old.

Do Tay Ha's real name is Do Minh Tien, before being crowned as the transgender female runner-up - Miss Venus 2017, Tay Ha has been famous in the LGBT community in Ho Chi Minh City. Despite having a title and an increasingly beautiful appearance, Do Tay Ha's dream of achieving success is still bitter sighs.

As a guest in the program "Where is happiness", model Do Tay Ha shared about life before transgender and happiness when living her gender. The female model said that since she was in school, Tay Ha liked to play with girls and realized her difference very early. Unable to share with anyone, Tay Ha once fell into depression.

Do Tay Ha said: "During my school years, in my mind, I always thought of myself as a girl. Every time my family asked me why I kept playing with girls but not with boys, I always wanted to play with girls. I can think of one reason because the boys are too naughty, or disruptive, so they don't like it.In fact, my thought is that I like being a girl.

Growing up, entering puberty, I was stressed. Because at that time, I realized that my body is not female. My soul is a girl but my body is not. At that time, I was depressed because I couldn't share it with anyone, couldn't tell anyone. My parents are very strict about gay and transgender issues, so they can't share it."

Do Tay Ha's desire to be a daughter grows stronger when she sees her friends go through puberty. Describing her feelings, the female model said that it was like she was being locked in a cage, day by day, what Tay Ha wished for was to become a girl. She confided: "I think, just being a girl for one day is enough to make me happy. When I was a child, I was very open and energetic, but when I got up, I lived a closed life, only going to school and then coming home to play. At that time, people did not call people like me gay or transgender, but used very disparaging words, considering it a disease."

The memory that hurt Do Tay Ha the most was a time when she was considered "sick" by a teacher: "Once, a teacher standing in the middle of the class told you: People like me are mentally ill, we We need to love, not tease. The teacher has good intentions but I get hurt because I don't have any diseases. And I try to study well, do everything in the most standard way so that teachers and parents don't get upset. ".

Talking about the motivation that made her determined to go transgender, Do Tay Ha said it was because of love: "The biggest motivation for me to be transgender is for love. I love that friend, but I just keep it in my heart, don't dare to dare to change my mind. said. friend that I have strength, determination to become a girl. I search for information about female hormone injections, sex reassignment surgery..."

Do Tay Ha said that her family and parents were also one of the reasons why her transgender journey became bitter: "On the day of my cousin's wedding, I told everyone, I wanted to do it. daughter, I wanted to be transgender, so that day, I disguised myself as a girl, bought a wig, wore a girl's dress, makeup, and went to my sister's wedding. That day, my father was very angry. He left. Father and son quarreled. a lot. At that time, I was sad and my mother cried."

At the age of 19, Tay Ha decided to go out on her own, with the concept of only living once in her life, she decided to leave to live as herself. However, the following days with Do Tay Ha were still extremely bitter and hard days.

"I only have one time in this life, so I will do what is happiest. From the age of 19, I started living away from home, making my own decisions, I have to be the right person with my soul. I'm a girl. I sell clothes, work as a waiter in a cafe, a pub. The work is very hard, from early morning to late at night, the person is tired but the money received cannot do anything, pay the money. home is over.

My mother advised me to go back to school. Mom said, if you are transgender, and you have knowledge and qualifications, people will not look down on you. I thought and decided to go back to school. During that time, I suspended my dream, only injecting female hormone periodically, every 8-10 days.

Outside of school, I work part-time at a fast food restaurant. I'm very passionate about art, so almost every casting program participates even though I know I failed. I joined because of passion"

2015 is the year that marks the turning point of Do Tay Ha's art: "The luckiest year is 2015, I have a predestined relationship with the contest. From this contest, I was sponsored by a sister who is a beauty salon owner 50%. , the cost of surgery on the upper part to make me look like a girl, to be more easily accepted Because when I had a lot of male features, I couldn't get a job, it was difficult to rent a hostel. appreciate that sister's help, so that I can enter life more easily."

Living away from family and independent since 19, Do Tay Ha was then fortunate to have her parents accept her as her true self. She confided: "It wasn't until later that my family really accepted my new self in the most natural way, but they always said that if I didn't change gender, it wouldn't be so difficult. I rarely come back to visit. My father and uncle still think my transgender is an impulsive thought, soon return to be a boy." In the coming time, many viewers hope to see Do Tay Ha at a new beauty contest and bring her story to inspire everyone.