Dr.Thanh - Pham Thi Nu: A rare tear in a 40-year marriage and the reason for the faithful husband

During 40 years of getting married, establishing a family, establishing a business, despite many ups and downs, the only time family members witnessed Mr. Tran Qui Thanh cry was when his wife - Mrs. Pham Thi Nu. seriously ill.

Love from a sugar stall in Ba Chieu market

When she was young, Ms. Nu had a sugar stall at Ba Chieu market. Ms. Nu's street goods sell very well, crowded with buyers, both people buying and using and small manufacturers.

In which, there are many people who come to buy sugar just because the owner of the street stall... is too beautiful. The most beautiful market in Ba Chieu at that time. Before that, when she was in law school, Ms. Nu was also a beauty, and many people even said that she was "the most beautiful in Gia Dinh province".

"I sell very expensive goods. Many people come to buy it not because they have a need for sugar, but just to make excuses to come," Mrs. Nu recalled, the woman's eyes, who had experienced many ups and downs, still shone with sharpness. as sharp as when she was a young woman.

Not only many people come to buy sugar. Many people also volunteered to clean up, carry and help her carry boxes of sugar weighing up to 50-60kg that she still has to carry every day.

Among them is a person whom Ms. Nu considers "polite, gallant", named Thanh "bearded". This name is associated with Mr. Thanh's green mustache, the true Saigon romance at that time.

As a yeast worker, Mr. Thanh is both a customer of sugar and a regular person to help Ms. Nu with daily tasks at the street stall. After cleaning up the goods, the experienced customer did not forget to pass the street girl to eat ice cream and go for a walk before going home.

Gradually, the hero - the boat fell in love and became husband and wife after the strange "deterrence" proposal of Dr. Thanh: "Marriage me, in the future, if your life path fails, you will crawl up on your own, but no one will help you" and "Have you thought about it? Nodding to me is not regretful."

To be able to nod "Wherever you go, I follow", the most beautiful street girl in Ba Chieu market has spent many restless nights, because in addition to elegance and confidence.

40 years of turbulence, only to fully understand each other

Determined to come together with sweet promises, but a life full of events both in the family and in the times really gives this couple a chance to test their promises. And there are things, only later do they really understand each other and reinforce their premonitions when choosing each other at first.

The story of Dr Thanh's family revealed that the first event came to this young family right after the honeymoon. When the two returned home, all that remained were two sets of dishes, an old bed, and a worn-out couch. Everything in Mr. Tam's house (Mr. Thanh's biological father) was taken away by his adopted son.

Hearing the story from a neighbor, Mr. Thanh gritted his teeth in anger, but Mrs. Nu held his hand with a whisper: "We can do it ourselves, and we will have it all back".

The difficulties did not stop. In the late 70s and early 80s, life in Saigon had many changes. The private economy is not encouraged, and Mrs. Nu's street stalls are also struggling.

Pregnant with her first child (who is now Tran Uyen Phuong's daughter), Mrs. Nu still "rides" a Honda 67 to Tay Ninh selling roads from dawn to dusk.

Once, because she was too tired, she carelessly let the car plunge into the ditch by the side of the road and she fell asleep in the middle of that sprawling scene until dawn, then "crawled up" by herself with the support of her road people. She did not tell her husband, because she knew that Mr. Thanh would forbid her from going wholesale.

Sweet, romantic romance fades into a sweat and tears of survival. The harshness of life also makes Mr. Thanh have a very strict philosophy of educating his children, taking a whip to adjust the scale of his children's life. That is also a point that Mrs. Nu could not agree with.

The three children of the Dr Thanh family grew up in the pouring rain whenever they did foolish things, and did not receive any privileges from their parents' well-being, even when the Thanh and Nu husband and wife had passed the old days. The most difficult and life changing process from a scrap chain bought and restored by Mr. Thanh.

In 40 years of living together, building a fortune, raising children, Mr. Thanh has always been the head of the family, or the patriarch, depending on how you understand it. He is the one who makes all the important decisions, or arbitrarily, depending on the assessment.

Mrs. Nu always followed him, no matter where he "goes", and with him "crawled up" in many failures, ups and downs. But she did not silently, or resignedly, follow. She often appeared when Mr. Thanh's anger was at its highest, or when he faced his worst defeat.

Even when Tan Hiep Phat really became a manufacturing empire in the beverage industry with thousands of workers, when Mr. Thanh had to fight with the harsh market, and manage a large-scale company with thousands of employees, Mr. With thousands of complicated processes, Ms. Nu knows each employee's name, meets and supports each person when they or their families have difficulties or events.

For more than 30 years, Mr. Thanh has remained the same: harsh, disciplined, always not accepting all limits. The sweetness and romance are a luxury in a life where family is also the company and the management philosophy is applied to close relationships.

Not until the 40th anniversary, for the first time, Tan Hiep Phat people saw Dr Thanh's sweet gestures and a different personality, when he hugged and kissed his wife in public or wrote poems for his wife.

A few years before that milestone, there was a big event that made the children really understand him, the father who has long made the children respect, admire but also fear, even discontent.

At that time, the "fly" crisis took place. In the midst of the public's anger and the market share being beaten on all sides, Ms. Nu had a stroke and faced the risk of selling her body paralysed.

The whole family is busy, full of worries. Mr. Thanh sat at the office every day, chaired dozens of meetings, listened to dozens of reports from the market to the media, directly commanded every step to overcome the crisis.

But not one day, he was late for an appointment with a woman of nearly 40 years who fulfilled his promise "Wherever you go, I follow you". At that time, although he could not express his love to his wife lying on the hospital bed, he confessed to his daughter: "If your mother has any fate, I have no motivation to fight or create anything. over anymore".

It was also a rare time that the eldest daughter Tran Uyen Phuong witnessed her iron father in tears as he begged the doctors to do all they could to save his wife.

Up to now, the storms have stayed behind and Tan Hiep Phat is aiming for the 25-year milestone with strong strides in the market. A 40-year love affair like the novel of Mr. Thanh and Mrs. Nu has been tested by time and events that make everyone in the family understand each other deeply.