Do Nhat Ha: Dad wants to leave home, boyfriend breaks up when transgender and dreams of Miss Universe

After the transgender decision, Do Nhat Ha's life had many big changes.

Do Nhat Ha's birth name is Do Nhat Tan, born in 1996, was a student at Hoa Sen University in Ho Chi Minh City. Originally born in the form of a boy, but in the process of growing up Ha has gradually realized her true gender.

From a young age, Tan loved dresses, liked to watch his mother put on lipstick and then secretly took her mother's lipstick to the bowl.

Going to school, Tan likes to play with girls, not like playing aggressive games like other boys. Every time the school organizes extracurricular activities such as swimming, the boy is afraid to take off his clothes, afraid to go to places with many male friends. The boy often waited for everyone to finish and leave before it was his turn.

While sitting on the school chair, Tan was touched by other male friends but did not dare to express it. In the school, there were also people who expressed discrimination and teasing, but fortunately, Tan was always promptly defended by his male classmates.

Only when he finished high school did Tan learn about the LGBT community and transgender people. At this time, Tan's desire to become a daughter rose more than ever. The journey to find herself and become a beautiful girl named Do Nhat Ha is also a turbulent journey not only for Tan but also for the whole Tan family.

Dad wants to leave home when I want to be transgender

When the family found out the child's true gender, the whole family was shocked. Ha's mother took her to the doctor because she thought she was sick. After all encouragement, comfort, scolding, Ha's mother also brought her property to "coax" her son to be a true son, but she just wanted to live with her true sex, not without parental property.

When she heard her son admit to "like boys", Ha's mother cried all night. Although the journey to convince her mother was not simple, after understanding her son, Ha's mother was the one who always held her hand tightly, being with her child during life and death, encouraging her to overcome everything.

It was also the mother who "made ideas" with Ha's father so that he would accept his son to go to Thailand to be transgender. At first, he vehemently protested, even demanding to leave home, but it was his mother who explained and advised him to let him live with its gender.

In order to have enough money to bring her children to Thailand, Do Nhat Ha's mother sold the ring as a souvenir.

Sharing about this difficult time, she once confided: "Things were very stressful at that time, not only because of me, because of my father but also because of my mother... In the letter, I told my father that this was not the case. It's not like I go to the beauty salon or show it to everyone. This is like deciding one is to live and the other is to die. I just hope that if I have the opportunity to return, my father will see me as a normal girl."

When she first had sex reassignment surgery, her father still could not accept this fact. However, after hiding from her family, she went to The Tiffany Vietnam 2018 contest and was crowned the highest, Nhat Ha received the pride of her father and family for her.

As a beauty queen, the papers still show the male gender

After successful gender reassignment surgery, Do Nhat Ha asked her mother to let her go to Korea to study for a master's degree for 2 years to teach in Vietnam. When the papers were completed, she suddenly signed up to participate in the Miss Transgender Vietnam contest with the promise of "taking the exam for fun, passing or failing, go to school".

Unexpectedly, after the coronation, Do Nhat Ha "turned around" 180 degrees, refused to go to school anymore but asked to participate in art. Not only appearing in the role of a model, a fashion show, Do Nhat Ha was also invited to be a judge and try her hand at the 7th art subject when she played the role of Khiet An in the movie "After the Sun".

In addition, Do Nhat Ha continued to participate in the Miss International Transgender Contest 2019 and entered the top 6 finalists. Recently, she also competed at Miss Universe Vietnam and became the first transgender person to participate in this contest.

Despite being a girl, despite being crowned Miss Transgender and participating in many beauty contests, on paper, Do Nhat Ha's gender is still male and this has caused her to suffer many disadvantages. when participating in the beauty arena.

Do Nhat Ha was unfortunately eliminated at the beauty contest she participated in in 2020. Just because of the male gender document, Do Nhat Ha had to stop early even though she met all the criteria. another part of the contest.

However, she still does not give up her desire to conquer other beauty contests, because Do Nhat Ha believes "be brave now or never". That has become a great motivator and inspiration for the LGBT community.

Farewell lover

Do Nhat Ha once shared that when she meets a man, she will hide the fact that she used to be a boy or transgender. If anyone unfortunately knew about the past, she would not deny it. However, to come out as transgender is not.

"I had a very beautiful first love. At first when I fell in love with him, I didn't say I was transgender, even though I had surgery. Some time later, I confessed that I was transgender to my lover. Immediately, that person broke up with me.

My lover is completely shocked because he has put everything, from thoughts, feelings to life into me, but with the condition that I am a girl. Until that person knew about my past and that I was transgender, he couldn't accept it," Do Nhat Ha shared.

She added: "However, I still find my life relatively lucky and smooth about everything. Even in that first love story, my lover was only shocked, but still treated me very civilly.

I also know many cases where my friend, after being found out by her lover that she is transgender, the other person feels cheated, feeling extremely horrible. In general, in love affairs, transgender people like me are always at a disadvantage.

I myself decided to get married and have a family, so I had to tell my man my true identity anyway. Many times I went out on the street and was flirted by many people. When they know who I am, what I do, I am confident, relieved, not anxious."

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