Xuan Lan posted a heart letter to her daughter in the midst of the noise of Phuong Oanh's biological mother

In the past few days, social networks have been constantly talking about a video recording the scene of "mother-in-law scolding her daughter-in-law", which is said to have been extracted from a camera in a family.

The content of the clip made many people angry when the daughter-in-law was loudly blamed in the context of allegedly having just given birth.

The incident attracted even more attention when it was spread on the internet that the mother-in-law character in the video was said to be the biological mother of actor Phuong Oanh. Although the truth has not been confirmed, the clip quickly spread, leading to a series of conflicting debates about the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship, especially how to treat women after giving birth.

In the midst of public opinion, there are still many different streams of opinions, some celebrities have posted hidden sharing lines, not directly mentioning the character's name but allegedly related to the story that is making noise. In particular, supermodel Xuan Lan's post received a lot of attention and sympathy from the online community. She shared messages for her daughter, revolving around protecting herself from toxic relationships in marriage.

Xuan Lan wrote:

"Daughter. One day I will get married. Then absolutely stay away from the category of toxic husbands. If someone insults you. Then I immediately went back to my mother. My mother taught me to love myself more than others, that whoever respects me will respect me, and what to be kind to those who don't respect me.

I love you more than life. Therefore, you must know how to cherish your life. Wrong can be corrected. If you marry the wrong person, correct it. But I'm not wrong, but it's not okay to force me to admit that I'm wrong.

On the day of birth, you absolutely have to let your mother take care of you. Because after giving birth, it is difficult to forgive anyone who hurts their child. The body after giving birth needs to be cherished. And if someone tells me about the leprosy culture, I will give it back.

In short, you must know how to love yourself. Do not accept injustice and insult no matter who it is. You must know how to behave right and wrong. Just do it right. If it is wrong, it must not continue.

P/S: there are people who are lucky because their children are not under the parenting pressure of people of the same blood."

The post quickly received thousands of interactions, shares, and comments. Many people think that Xuan Lan's writings are not only a personal message to her daughter, but also reflect the general psychology of many women when entering marriage, especially in the relationship with her husband's family.

Many people agree that women, especially postpartum women, need to be respected, understood and protected both physically and mentally, instead of having to endure heavy words or invisible pressure from family members.

From an expert's perspective, the story of the clip "mother-in-law scolding her daughter-in-law" also raises many questions worth pondering. According to the analysis of psychologists, postpartum women are sensitive and vulnerable subjects due to major changes in endocrine, health and psychology.

Facing scolding, insults, or impositions during this period can cause long-lasting negative effects, even leading to serious psychological disorders. Experts say that acts of scolding and degrading dignity, even if they come from family members, can also be considered a form of mental violence if they occur frequently and cause obvious damage.

The case also reflects gender prejudices that still exist deeply in many Vietnamese families. Concepts such as "because you have to abstain", "men with flower moons are common" or "wives are not good at keeping their husbands" invisibly push women into a weak position.

A study by RMIT University Vietnam found that many women tend to blame themselves when their marriage breaks down, even if the fault isn't theirs. They are afraid of being judged and considered a "failure" in their role as wives and mothers.

According to the theory of ego inconsistency, when self-image does not meet societal expectations, people are prone to falling into feelings of guilt, shame, and low self-esteem. For pregnant women, the pressure of the "ideal mother" makes them even more prone to collapse when they encounter an event.

However, psychologists say that protecting postpartum women needs the cooperation of families, communities and the health system.

Phuong Oanh's mother extracted her daughter-in-law, did she violate the law, how was she punished? Keng10:37:11 07/02/2026In recent days, a video of a woman in Hanoi being scolded by her mother-in-law (believed to be the biological mother of actor Phuong Oanh) when she had just given birth to a baby has gone viral on social networks, causing special public interest.